Baggage reclaim online dating

Don’t waste your life waiting for them to become the Person They Were In The Beginning.If someone is reluctant to talk about the future, it’s because they don’t want to give you the impression that you’re Plain and simple, if you are not on an equal footing in the relationship and one person is dictating the temperature and pace and deciding what does and doesn’t happen, you are in an unhealthy relationship.Don’t make it up as you go along either and come up with your own reasons for why you think they behave as they do. Respect your own boundaries, so that either others do, or you recognise when they don’t.

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If they were interested, you wouldn’t still be chasing them!

This means no pursuing them after they have turned you down, been half hearted in their interest, shagged around on you, not bothered to call you, pit you against other women and certainly no chasing someone to convince them that they should be interested in you.

If they lie to you and let you they’re single, abort mission.

I should also remind about ‘lender awareness’ – do not allow yourself to be in a situation where you are sharing your man, whether it’s because you turn a blind eye to his cheating, or you keep letting him break up with you and then take him back once he’s got her/them out of his skin…which brings me neatly to… I will not spend my time waiting around, whether it’s for their calls, or for them to show up after they’ve disappeared, waiting for them to come back, waiting for them to turn into The Man I Think He Could/Should Be, or waiting for them to decide if they want to be with me – I’m not putting my life on hold for anyone.

Don’t let someone use you as a sexual plaything or degrade you – you must have limits.

There is no excuse for this lazy communication and it’s the hallmark of emotionally unavailable people who want to keep themselves distant.

If you ignore, you’ll make the ill advised assumption that your feelings cancel out your concerns – they don’t.

Do not treat your partners like children even if they act like it.

When a man is interested, you are in no doubt about their interest and they don’t run the risk of losing you.

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