Leafos nude - Advice for dating a divorce man with kids
What's hard is that I know my parents aren't happy with my situation and they feel like I should find somebody who 1) isn't divorced and 2) doesn't have kids. but his children arent lol i tried so hard to be accepted by them .. and i dont really care anymore .husband is a great father .. but i always have to compromise and be understanding that im not the only one in his life ... It really helps that it's anonymous because I got comments from friends that they would not say to my face. He gets his children every other weekend and on those weekends, I don't see him nor am I invited to do things with them.I respect that they are concerned about me and my situation but can't they just be happy that I'm happy right now? consider that and watch how close your guy with his children and watch the character of those children .your choice .. I also am in a relationship with a fella with 3 kids, I have 4 and can make it work, but he is having difficulty, he says they come first and me 2nd. Using this, I decided what to do about my relationship and have been very happy with my decision. I am dating a recently divorced man with 3 children. I have only been around them twice and both times things went well, but we've been dating now for 8 months and still I've only been around them twice. But, If he doesn't have that desire to include me in ALL of his life, have me go places with them (even once a month) then how do I know if this is actually going somwhere?i have told him that i'll be in need of counselling to help me adjust once we get married (by the way, we're planning to get married in few months). My boyfriend (father of 2) felt somewhat guilty about not being able to keep his family together.
I've never felt like this, so it's hard for me to turn my back on it just because they aren't happy with it. Coming from experience, it is really up to you if it is worth it. I feel ill about it all now and am deciding if I can, and will it always be like this. I want to be married and possibly have kids of my own. I don't want to be in the same place I am now a year from now and I'm really worried I will be. Guy, I appreciated reading the other post you send.
It will put a lot of strain on your relationship and sometimes it is EXTREMELY hard to deal with. But, I know my boyfriend is not staying at his ex's house. He was separated, living in separate places, for a little over a year.
It your happy right now, you should keep going with it. I feel like I am not included in the most important aspect of his and it hurts. I am an Asian, we don't believe in divorce and that sort of thing. I am in this dilemma as I am also not sure if we will have a good future together...he's hesitant to get married and not so sure of having another child.
Just remember that it is still the beginning and you might not end up with him anyway. Troe1113, I realize that the situations are not exactly the same, but you could be in for a long wait and not even know if he's going to involve you or not with his kids. We talk about it often but nothing has changed and he keeps telling me to be patient. I am 33 yrs old, never been married and want children of my own.
If you do end up with him, I'm sure it will be because he treats you right. I'd say that you should talk to him and let him know if he will be a part of you by a certain date (before your first anniversary would be good, I think, but you may choose one that you prefer). I'm interested in knowing how things have turned out for you? I don't want to succomb to my family's pressure but they are so right.
This is more about how long you want to wait rather than when he's supposed to decide. He was with his last gf for 5 years and never got married. I'm 29 with a man who is 42 years old with 3 kids (18,15,10).I hate how he become too defensive about it even if he told me that he was just scared to have the same experience like what happened to him and his second wife ( they divorced because they kept on fussing over the same thing). Your boyfriend will fall more deeply in love once he sees how compatible you are to his children. I don't think you're wrong in feeling that way, but maybe you just don't really understand his point of view.i don't want us to end up like that coz i love him so much. going back to your problem, i think you are in a better situation. Not knowing him or you, I'm only speaking from personal experience.I'm hurt because I give him everything and I want him to be a part of my entire life, not just pieces. And yet, I regret loving him, loving the children, every day. I am dating a very recently divorced man with 3 kids who is 12 years older than me. He is so good to me, I couldn't ask for a better boyfriend when we're together. I know he wants a smooth transition for the kids, but I am left feeling lonely, sad and left out.I feel that if he loves me like he says he does then he should feel and do the same. I think that being with a divorced guy with kids really depends on the situation. I include him in all aspects of my life: I got him on my softball team, he's met/hung out with my friends multiple times, he's met my family, I invite him everywhere. I am dating a man with 2 sons from his ex-wife and a daughter with his ex-gf.In my opinion only, it MAY be that he is just not comfortable enough with your relationship yet to involve his kids heavily. Try to be very understanding and have a long talk with him to express your concerns. I want him to be a good father, put his children first, go to all the fball games and track meets, but does that mean putting my feelings,needs,wants, on a shelf...settling?!Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating